Pastoral Care Committee: 2018 Committee Report
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Whenever we begin the new year with new committee members the meeting community is reapportioned among current pastoral care members in the hope of providing all members and attenders with attention and a resource in times of need. Please feel free to contact any pastoral care committee member if they can be of aid to those seeking membership, planning a wedding, or facing other life events. Telephone & e-mail address of your member may be found in the directory.
The purpose of the Pastoral Care Committee of Third Haven Monthly Meeting is to provide and maintain a caring meeting community. We welcome questions and requests for assistance from members and attenders.
Attenders are invited to request membership with the meeting, as they are led to make a commitment to the pursuit of spiritual enlightenment and growth in the manner of Friends. The meeting correspondingly commits to support the member in that pursuit. Faith and Practice, a publication of the Philadelphia Yearly Meeting (PYM), details the meaning of membership. Copies are available from the Third Haven Library, located in the Brick Meeting House.
The Pastoral Care Committee invites members and attenders to make use of CLEARNESS COMMITTEES, not only for requests for membership and marriage/union under the care of the Meeting, but for support during times of duress. Alone, or in relationship with others, we sometimes have disquiet and need help discerning the genuine nature of our feelings so that we can reach resolution with ourselves and/or others. Such a committee neither gives advice nor attempts to solve anyone's problem(s). Clearness is intended to remove encumbrances to insight, allowing one to move forward. The process is confidential. A request from a member or attender requires only a note or call to the Clerk of the Pastoral Care Committee.
Anyone requesting a Clearness Committee is encouraged to suggest the names of the Pastoral Care Committee members who might serve on the committee. It is also appropriate to prepare notes stating the issue or question and its background. Faith and Practice serves as a guide to the clearness process. Additional resources are available in the Third Haven Library. Two additional references are Patricia Loring's Pendle Hill Pamphlet, Spiritual Discernment: the context and goal of clearness committees and Parker Palmer's description.
Declaration of Intentions:
Friends are reminded that it is our responsibility to make clear our intentions for memorial services and other necessities with which our families and friends must cope upon our death. Below is a copy of the Declaration of Intentions which can be a great help to those who will miss us when we are gone. Please ease their burden by filling out the form if you have not yet done so and returning it to Overseers. It will be placed in a confidential file until it is needed: Declaration of Intentions form.
Minute about Joys & Concerns, 11/9/14:
Our weekly practice of sharing Joys and Concerns at the end of meeting for worship is one way in which our community of Friends becomes aware of important developments in the lives of our members and attenders. However, Overseers recently began discussing a concern of our own about the potential for invading the privacy of those we mention during Joys and Concerns. How do we balance our wish to reach out to members and attenders who are having a health crisis, for instance, with that person's right to confidentiality?
Overseers urge that before sharing information about a member or attender, that we have a discussion with that person about what he or she would like communicated in the public arena of our meeting. Sometimes it might be a simple wish to be held in the light. We are a caring community and we welcome the opportunity to be able to offer comfort or assistance. Part of that caring is making sure that we honor the wishes of those we would comfort.