OVERSEERS COMMITTEE provides leadership in maintaining a caring meeting community. We all welcome questions and requests for assistance from members and attenders. Each Overseer is assigned specific members and attenders by alphabetic directory listing:
- Dona Sorce, Contact info here: A-COL
- Marsie Hawkinson, Contact info here: COO-ESC
- Lorraine Claggett, Contact info here: EWI-JOH
- Connie Lewis, Contact info here: KAB-MOL
- Adrienne Rudge, Contact info here: MON-ROW
- Larny Claggett, Contact info here: RUD-VER
- Nancy Robbins, Contact info here: WAC-ZIN
- Dee Rein: answering machine; Contact info here
Requests for Membership:
Attenders are invited to request membership in Third Haven Friends Meeting of the Religious Society of Friends when they choose to commit to the pursuit of spiritual enlightenment and growth in the manner of Friends. The Meeting correspondingly commits to support the member in that pursuit. Faith and Practice details the meaning of membership:
"Members are expected to participate in communal worship, to share in the work and service of the Society, and to live in harmony with its basic beliefs and practices."
For further information on the rewards, responsibilites, and steps toward membership, please check the separate link on this site, "Pathway to Membership".
Overseers invite members and attenders to make use of CLEARNESS COMMITTEES, not only for requests for membership and marriages/unions under the care of the meeting, but for support during times of duress.
Alone, or in relationship with others, we sometimes have disquiet. The genuine nature of our feelings, our discernment and our sense of direction seem to be missing. Overseers offer a clearness committee as means to help members and attenders who experience such disquiet.
Such a committee neither gives advice nor attempts to "fix" you. Clearness is intended to remove encumbrances to insight, allowing you to move forward in your journey to discover your true leadings. The process is confidential. Your request requires only a note or call to the clerk of Overseers. It is appropriate for you to suggest individuals that you would like to meet with you. Please prepare some notes stating your issue or question and its background.
Faith and Practice serves as a guide to the clearness process. Two additional references are Patricia Loring's Pendle Hill Pamphlet, Spiritual Discernment: the context and goal of clearness committees and Parker Palmer's description.
Declaration of Intentions:
Friends are reminded that it is our responsibility to make clear our intentions for memorial services and other necessities with which our families and friends must cope upon our death. Below is a copy of the Declaration of Intentions which can be a great help to those who will miss us when we are gone. Please ease their burden by filling out the form if you have not yet done so and returning it to Overseers. It will be placed in a confidential file until it is needed: Declaration of Intentions form.
Minute about Joys & Concerns, 11/9/14:
Our weekly practice of sharing Joys and Concerns at the end of meeting for worship is one way in which our community of Friends becomes aware of important developments in the lives of our members and attenders. However, Overseers recently began discussing a concern of our own about the potential for invading the privacy of those we mention during Joys and Concerns. How do we balance our wish to reach out to members and attenders who are having a health crisis, for instance, with that person's right to confidentiality?
Overseers urge that before sharing information about a member or attender, that we have a discussion with that person about what he or she would like communicated in the public arena of our meeting. Sometimes it might be a simple wish to be held in the light. We are a caring community and we welcome the opportunity to be able to offer comfort or assistance. Part of that caring is making sure that we honor the wishes of those we would comfort.